. THEY REALLY ARE ALWAYS RIGHT .
Although we'd never admit it to their faces, there is nothing but truth in the title of this blog post. If mum's were always wrong, then everything we've ever known would be wrong too.
Without motherly advice and maternal wisdom (whether this comes from your birth mother or another human representing), we would all arrive into the world wandering aimlessly - forced to work things out for ourselves. Mother’s teach us physical things, like walking, talking, cooking and cleaning, but they also teach us how to be kind, how to be careful, how to be sensible, and how to have fun. Their advice is not only essential in teaching us and helping us to grow, it also plays a crucial part in soothing us and treating our feelings and our minds when the world seems just impossible. By now, if you’re old enough to be using a computer or a smartphone (with no thanks to your mum here, let’s face it - there’s only so much we can learn from them), you’ve made it through the earliest stages of your life when this advice and guidance is more valuable than ever. But they will never run out of advice to give, and you should always be willing to take it.
In Baz Luhrmann’s famous Sunscreen, he expresses how to treat advice from another person.
“be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts, and recycling it for more than it's worth”.
Advice, regardless of who it is from, has the power to warn us, but also to heal us. It provides consolation in times of distress, and having someone to advise you in difficult situations gives a sense that you are not alone, and that you can share these moments with someone more prepared to cope with them. Below, I asked some inspiring friends to share the best advice they ever got passed down from their mother. Because it’s not just your mum that’s always right… they all are.
. Imelda Burke, Founder of Content Beauty .
It's sound advice, and years of being taught to “be myself” influenced my decision to open an organic beauty store in 2008 - when no one was that into it.
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. Bonnie Wright, Actress, Director & Founder of BonBonLumiere .
“I AM THE MASTER OF MY FATE, I AM THE CAPTAIN OF MY SOUL" - William Ernest Henely
My Mum and I share a love for this quote and it has helped me to grow and to always follow my own journey.
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. Amy Woodside, Founder of OKReal .
On letting the days unfold as they intend to: "LIFE WILL WORK ITSELF OUT. STOP STRESSING ABOUT IT. IT WILL HAPPEN.”
And on a serious note, I was always reminded “Our family is very fertile.”
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. Kate Hamilton, Editor at Suitcase Magazine, and Emma Bates, Travel & Lifestyle Blogger at Kuidaore.
“ALWAYS WEAR NICE KNICKERS INCASE YOU END UP IN CASULTY”.
My mum once ended up in hospital after a horse riding accident and the doctors had to undress her to sort out her leg.
(And if the memory of her underwear choice was the most traumatising part of this, let us all learn from it).
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. Marina Guergova, Founder of Marina London .
“LIFE IS SHORT, BREAK THE RULES, FORGIVE QUICKLY, KISS SLOWLY, LOVE TRULY, LAUGH UNCONTROLLABLY, AND NEVER REGRET ANYTHING THAT MAKES YOU SMILE." - Mark Twain.
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Rosa Park, Editor of Cereal Magazine
“YOU HAVE TO KNOW SOMEONE AT LEAST THROUGH FOUR SEASONS - A CALENDAR YEAR - BEFORE YOU CAN BEGIN TO TRULY UNDERSTAND THEIR CHARACTER".
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Madeleine Shaw, Blogger and Author or Get The Glow
“FOCUS ON THE THINGS YOU ARE GOOD AT, NOT THE THINGS YOU AREN'T GOOD AT".
This has made me a much more positive person and has meant i am able to focus on and enhance my strengths, without focussing too much energy on things i am not destined to succeed in.
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. Danielle Copperman, Blogger & Founder of Qnola .
“STAY IN YOUR DAY” and “TAKE EACH DAY AS IT COMES”.
Whenever I feel stressed or unsure about the future, this advice grounds me and encourages me to stay present, and to focus my energy on what’s happening in the moment, not what has happened and is unchangeable, or what hasn’t happened yet and is uncertain. She has taught me that life will happen, regardless of what you worry about, what you plan for it or what you want from it. The days will unfold as they intend to and Life will follow the path it began to take, neither reversing nor checking its course. The present time is extremely short and my mother has taught me to appreciate it in order not to miss it. Her advice reminds me of a quote from Seneca: Life is divided into three periods, past, present and future. Of these, the present is short, the future is doubtful, the past is certain.
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